The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
This is the groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality and why it leads to shame over one's identity, and how to overcome it - now expanded and fully updated. Today's gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, "Are we really better off?" Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs' own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, "The Velvet Rage" passionately describes the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behaviour. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural and political changes, "The Velvet Rage" is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.
"The Velvet Rage is becoming a touchstone in gay culture just as Christopher Isherwood's Goodbye to Berlin was in the 30s, Edmund White's A Boy's Own Story in the 60s and Larry Kramer's Faggots in the 70s." --Observer Magazine
Alan Downs, PhD is a clinical psychologist practicing in Beverley Hills, California. The former CEO of Michael's House Treatment Center, Downs now maintains a thriving private psychotherapy practice and an intensive outpatient addiction programme.