Author(s): Anne Katherine
Some boundaries are obvious, such as the physical space surrounding you. You are affected when this boundary is crossed--if you are shoved, or kissed; if you are touched suggestively, if a stranger simply stands too close. Some boundaries are harder to see, but they are just as important, and affect you just as much--emotional boundaries. Boundaries can bring order to your life, strengthen your relationships with yourself and others, and are essential to your mental and physical health. Real-life stories throughout the book illustrate the ill effects of not setting limits, and the benefits of protecting your own personal boundaries and respecting those of others Which of the following are boundary violations? "Esther tells Betty a secret Mary told her. Your therapist invites you to go for coffee. Your boss wants to know the details of your personal life. Your boss asks you if you'd like a hug. Mom tells little Debbie about her troubles with Dad. Your new neighbor pats you on the bottom as he turns away. Your mother makes a comment about your being overweight." All but one of the above incidents violate boundaries (your boss asks you if you'd like a hug). In Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, Anne Katherine explains what healthy boundaries are, how to recognize if your personal boundaries are being violated, and what you can do to protect yourself. For anyone who has walked away from a conversation, a meeting, or a visit with others feeling violated and not understanding why, this is a book that can help.