The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused - and Start Standing Up for Yourself
How can women overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves? Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If any of this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself. Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, since 'nice girls' are much more likely to be victimised - emotionally, physically, and sexually - than those who are not so 'nice'. She identifies seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type might apply to you. She helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations, and helps you challenge and change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back. It helps you confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones.
Acknowledgments. Introduction. Part One Strong Women Aren't Nice. 1 The High Price of Being Too Nice. 2 How did We Get So Nice? 3 The Ten False Beliefs That Set Women Up to Be Used and Abused. Part Two From False Beliefs to Empowering Beliefs. 4 Stop Putting Other's Feelings and Needs ahead of Your Own. 5 Stop Believing That Being Nice Will Protect You. 6 Stop Worrying about What Other People Think of You. 7 Stop Trying to Be Perfect. 8 Stop Being Gullible and Naive. 9 Start Standing Up for Your Rights. 10 Start Expressing Your Anger. 11 Learn How to Handle Conflict. 12 Start Facing the Truth about People. 13 Start Supporting and Protecting Yourself. Part Three From Nice Girl to Strong Woman. 14. The Four C's: Developing Confidence, Competence, Conviction, and Courage. References. Index.