The Brink of Being - Talking about Miscarriage
Approximately one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage. However, it is by and large still considered taboo: rarely talked about, under-researched, and often misunderstood. We know very little about why women actually miscarry; doctors and other medical professions are often ill-equipped to provide appropriate support, knowledge, and care to women who are undergoing or have undergone a miscarriage; and friends and loved ones often find themselves unsure of what to say, sometimes unwittingly reacting in ways that can make a grieving woman feel worse. As a society, we have not done enough to understand or make room for the grief of women--and their partners--who have lost an unborn child, and, unlike with the loss of a spouse, parent, or other family member, there are no established rituals for how to mourn.
In The Brink of Being, psychotherapist Julia Bueno draws on a broad range of women's stories--including her own--as well as historical and scientific research to craft a comprehensive book that breaks the silence around miscarriage. With candor, warmth, and empathy, she guides the reader through the range of women's experiences that miscarriage can bring, exploring how it has affected women and their loved ones throughout history, and highlighting again and again the ways in which our society fails to effectively discuss and treat this profoundly important aspect of women's fertility. The result is an eye-opening, galvanizing look at our society's shortcomings, and an urgent and moving exploration of the psychological, emotional, medical, and cultural aspects of this too-often-hidden human experience.