U-Turn: Putting You Back into Your Relationship (out of print)
Do you try to please your partner at all costs?.Do you sabotage yourself in relationships?.Do you keep going out with the wrong person?.You're not alone. In this groundbreaking work from a clinical psychologist you will finally understand the causes and influences that prevent you from having that special long-term happiness you crave. People who 'give themselves up' in relationships rarely find the right partner. U-Turn will help you gain a relationship that works. First published 2005.
Introduction PART 1: 'Why Do I lose Myself in Relationships?' One) DEFINING THE PROBLEM; Two) HOW DID I GET HERE?; Three) WHAT DRIVES MY UNHAPPINESS? PART 2: Getting Motivated to Change; Four) WHO DO I CHOOSE TO BE UNHAPPY?; Five) WHAT'S IT LIKE TO HAVE YOUR NEEDS MET IN A RELATIONSHIP?; PART 3: Gaining Momentum in Your Life - Techniques to Change; Six) UNDERSTANDING AND OVERCOMING SELF-SABOTAGE; Seven BREAKING OLD HABITS - THE FOUR PILLARS OF WELLBEING PART 4: Finding a Relationship That Works for You; Eight) OVERCOMING RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS; DATING; Being attracted to bad types; Sabotaging yourself to stay single; Fear of rejection; Being a picky perfectionist; DURING THE RELATIONSHIP; Dealing with a co-dependent relationship; Dealing with an angry partner; Dealing with a commitment-phobic; Dealing with problem exes; Dealing with infidelity; Dealing with a poor communicator; Dealing with sexual problems; Dealing with an overinvolved in-law; Dealing with a disinterested in-law; Dealing with a fitness junkie; Dealing with a workaholic; Dealing with a jealous partner; Dealing with a drama queen/king; ENDING RELATIONSHIPS AND MOVING ON; Getting out of a bad relationship; Letting go of past relationships; PART 5: Maintaining Your Happiness; Nine) EVALUATING YOUR CHANGE; Ten) KEEPING THE SKILLS IN PLACE; Conclusion; Bibliography